Goodbye twenties, hello thirties.
My birthday was this past weekend and it’s been a whirlwind of celebration and excitement. So many wonderful things are happening in my life, I’m surrounded by amazing friends, a loving husband, the sweetest little girl to call my own and a family who believes in me endlessly. So many people asked how I felt about turning 30, what I would miss about my 20’s, so I decided to compile the 20 things I learned in my twenties to share with you.
1. Second chances exist.
We often get so caught up in the act of comparison, caught up in the idea that we don’t amount to what others are doing. So, we end up throwing in the towel. DON’T. Second chances exist, heartaches can heal and new jobs are around the corner. Don’t give up.
2. It’s never too late to do something you love.
Honestly, it doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 99, it’s never too late to go back to school, change careers or take a chance on something you’ve always wanted to do. Life is short, don’t be one of those people who grows up to regret not trying.
3. People don’t really change, you do.
It’s easy to blame other people for the things that happen in our life. However, it’s not really about them but rather the life circumstances we have to deal with and how we chose to handle it. It’s OK to find yourself in a different chapter than the people around you. It’s called your story for a reason.
4. It’s not about quantity, it’s really about quality.
It’s not about the number of friends on all your social media feeds or how many parties you’re being invited too, it’s about the people who are truly going to be there when you need them the most. The ones that prioritize you and make time for you in their life. Surround yourself with good people, numbers and likes don’t matter.
5. Be happy with who you are becoming.
Accept those gray hairs, flaunt those new curves! There is beauty in age and wisdom in experience.
6. Be yourself authentically.
Regardless of what people think and or feel about you, YOUR WORTH IS NOT ESTIMATED BY OTHERS VALUES. Just do you.
7. Bust your ass for what you want.
Set your eye on the prize and work hard for what you want. It’s not going to be handed to you so set goals, make priorities and crush them!
8. It’s OK to want to be alone.
Hey, we’re human, and sometimes we just need some alone time. Don’t feel guilty about asking for it. You deserve it.
9. Learn to say No.
It’s OK to politely decline, do only what you feel is worth your time.
10. Do more of what makes you happy.
If you like to bake, bake more often. If you like to paint, then paint, if you like to read, read more books. Do the things that fill your heart with so much joy. You and those around you will benefit from it.
11. You don’t have to have everything on your checklist marked off.
Listen your 20’s matter but if, by the end of this decade, you don’t have a career or a mortgage or a partner, it’s not a big deal. It’s okay to spend these years figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. In fact, you’ll be kind of glad that you did. Seriously, there’s no need to rush. You have time.
12. Travel more, buy things less.
Invest in memories, not things. Travel, go on road trips, get lost, collect moments. This is by far one of the most important lessons learned. Go out and live!
13. Be compassionate and kind to everyone.
Everyone has a story and it’s worth being told. Be kind, you never know when a little compassion can make someones day. The world is already a dark place, be the light that leads the way.
14. You’re past doesn’t define you.
Keep the past in the past. You’re here right now. Don’t ever let anyone remind you of your past mistakes, you don’t live in those moments anymore.
15. Relationships take work.
But the most excellent relationships, whether family or friends or lovers, are not heartbreaking. If a relationship is heartbreaking, that’s a sign that something needs to change. And you have the ability to change the dynamic of every single one of your relationships.
16. The most important things in life are not things, they are people.
You already know this, but I don’t care; I want to state it nonetheless. Value people over profits; chose relationships over possessions. We are consumed with materialistic things and social standings, and the only way to overcome this is through relationships.
17. Take Risks and be brave.
Fear can hinder us from doing so much. But fear can also be harnessed to one’s advantage. Face your fear head on, take risks; butterflies in your stomach are a good sign. The people who I respect most – personally, spiritually, professionally – are the ones that took risks. Be brave.
18. Be present in the moment.
Be present right here and right now. Spend time with those you love, soak them up, listen inventively and love with all you got. Be present and ground yourself to those moments. Your notifications and phone will still be there when it’s all said and done, so put the damn thing away. Don’t wake up years later regretting not living in the moment.
19. Don’t assume.
Assumptions just end up making an ass out of you and me. You’re not always going to be right, learn to say you’re sorry and learn to let it go. Don’t harbor on past resentments, it’s like letting someone live in your head rent free.
20. Just live your life.
The beauty of life is that no one gets to live it or experience it like you. Advice from others is great, but there’s nothing like making your own mistakes and learning from them. Grow, learn and at the end of the day ask yourself, “am I happy?” If you are, great! If not, then remember, you have the power to change it. It’s your life and you’re in control. Take your life where you want it to go.
Cheers to my twenties, I can’t wait to see what the thirties hold.